Among the acquaintances of each of us there are probably several people who can easily be called the “soul of the company”. They fit so organically in any team that you can only envy them with white envy and be surprised at their ability to quickly find a common language with people. And you, unfortunately, cannot and therefore at friendly parties more and more modestly sit in the corner and silently examine the photos, afraid to insert even the word into a friendly conversation. But there is nothing impossible for life – so you can become the soul of the company after a while if you follow the next tips.
If you are at a party, then, of course, you came here to rest. Hence the first advice – relax and try to forget all the problems that you had during the day. You will think about them tomorrow – and today, try to forget about them and succumb to common fun – only when a person has no internal tension, he can easily and at ease to joke and maintain a common topic of conversation.
To become really the soul of the company, think about how talent the mother-nature endowed you, and try to reveal it completely. It seems to you that you are deprived of talents? This is simply impossible! Maybe you know how to tell jokes in your faces or sing well? Or you quickly compose epigrams or perfectly draw friendly cartoons? Even if you do not have all these creative talents, but just know how to move your ears, then this also should not be hidden from friends. Force yourself to show your skill in public, amuse others, and soon you will see that the number of people who want to see you among their friends begins to grow.
As great people say, there is no limit to perfection. Therefore, do not stop there and improve your skills. To achieve your goal, learn some non-standard toasts, subscribe to the mailing list of jokes and practice telling them funny and in faces.
But, hurrying to please friends with a new joke, always remember that any joke is good only when it is told to the point. Think for yourself – can even a very funny anecdote about a pianist please avid fishermen discussing the last successful catch at a friendly table?
To make it easier for you to become the soul of the company, you can advise you to learn how to say beautiful compliments. Of course, you should also be careful with them and not to shower them with each of your friends throughout the evening. Your task is to make the center of attention and emphasize the merits of the one who is most invisible in your friendly team with the help of an appropriate and timely compliment. After that, your “gray mouse” will certainly begin to consider you a recognized leader and tell others about it.
Pay attention to the fact that people who are considered the soul of the company do not adapt to the opinions of others, but always openly express their own. The team is not interested in a person who does not have his own point of view – so express it when necessary, but do not impose it on others.
To achieve your goal, take a critical look at your appearance – perhaps there is something in it that can repel people from you in the first minutes of meeting you. Too bright, defiant make-up or, on the contrary, too ascetic image may well become the obstacle that will prevent you from becoming the real soul of the company. Ask your friends to look at you, as they say, from the side – it is possible that their comments will help you understand what really needs to be changed in your image.