If you ask young parents about whether it is necessary to pamper the child, then most likely most of them will answer what is needed, but in moderation. Of course, every parent, and even more so every grandmother or every grandfather really wants to pamper the native and most expensive child for them. But how to find out that measure when parents and other relatives should stop and not indulge the child’s needs? How to grow an unusable personality? Surely all mothers and dads ask themselves such a question, so let’s dwell on this in more detail.
To begin with, for loving parents, or those who are directly involved in raising a child, first you need to learn how to understand your baby. Only then will an adult be able to distinguish the real needs of the baby from his whims. If such an understanding has already been achieved, then you can be congratulated – you are already half the way to achieving the goal.
Now your main task will be to learn how to tell the child “no”. It is clear that at first it can be very difficult to refuse the baby, but you must understand that this is the only way you can educate an unusable child. To do this, your pupil will need to learn to adhere to some rules of discipline. Do not look for them in books on pedagogy – they are simply not there. Make them yourself. It is easy to do this, because every family has its own rules. Therefore, sit down and think that for you it will be unacceptable in the behavior of your heir under any circumstances? How your child should never do? What your offspring is categorically impossible? As you can see, the questions are quite understandable and requiring a clear answer.
If you do not set your goal to grow a spoiled personality, then you will also need to hold some of the rules of discipline. Remember – in order to achieve what you want, you will need to show persistence and firmness in your requirements for the child in some cases. Raising it, you should not humiliate the child under any circumstances. And another important rule for all adults communicating with the baby is the unity in the prohibitions. As a rule, this requirement is fulfilled by adults with great difficulty, and it can be difficult for a child to decide what can be done, and what is impossible.
Of course, the process of raising a child is not complete without such situations where the adult has to force the child to do what he does not want. How to do it correctly and competently from the point of view of pedagogy? Naturally, the child must be interested in in the process itself or in its final result. Start to do what the child does not want to do it yet, with him, come up with a game, according to the rules of which the one who is the first or fully fulfilled the task will win. You must understand that you should show your son or daughter, grandson or granddaughter that the execution of the assignment is no difficult for him. It will be better if the baby with your help sees that what he first refused is even fun and funny. Sometimes you can give the winner a prize at the end of the game – this will delight each baby.
If you have a too soft character, and it is easier for you to allow than to prohibit, then perhaps the following advice will help you – write a list of situations on a leaflet in which you must firmly insist on your own and not give in to your child, even if he cries strongly and insists. Also, this list can be included in the list of those actions that adults should not do for the child. This list will also help other relatives adhere to the same principles of education.